I am an integrative therapist. This means that I have received training in a number of therapeutic approaches and can draw upon their various core philosophies and techniques.
My approaches include:
- Ericksonian hypno-psychotherapy
- Depth-oriented brief therapy
- Eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR)
- Self-relations psychotherapy
- Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP)
- Internal Family Systems Therapy
So, whatever issue you may be facing, I can tailor my approach to best meet your individual needs.
Five core principles guide the way that I work:
1. Life is great, but sometimes hurts like hell*
Just being alive means that we are heir to all the joys and sorrows that life can bring.
Life can hurt for many reasons: through recent or long-ago events that still trouble us, battles with addictive substances or behaviours, fears, worries and stress, the consequences of physical problems and so on.
Sometimes things resolve all by themselves. Sometimes they don’t and we seem to get stuck.
When life hurts or gets stuck this is not a sign of weakness on our part, lack of effort or will power. It is, though, an opportunity to grow as a person.
Counselling and psychotherapy are wonderful ways to foster this life-forward movement.
* I am indebted to Dr Stephen Gilligan for this delightful phrase which he uses in his wonderful book The Courage to Love: Principles and Practices of Self-Relations Psychotherapy. 1997. W.W. Norton & Company.
2. At our core we have all the resources we need to thrive
Therapy is often thought of as a process in which the ‘expert’ (the therapist) provides answers and solutions to the ‘client’ who remains essentially passive.
Nothing could be further from the truth!
A good therapist acts as a guide and catalyst, helping each person discover and develop the unique inner resources that they need to heal, grow and thrive.
3. You will be met with utmost respect
For you to gain from counselling and psychotherapy, is it vital that you feel seen, heard and valued. This provides the safety you need to explore, to resolve challenges and to heal.
My commitment to you is to meet you with utmost respect for who you are and what you are grappling with.
4. We are all wholly unique
Because of this truth there is no standard technique or process of therapy, nor is there a standard time in which results occur.
For some people results appear very quickly. For others it is a slower process.
The important thing is not speed per se but achieving the valuable goals you seek in a way that fits with who you are.
5. Therapy is serious, but should never be a drudge
There is no doubt that some people are a little reluctant to seek the help of a counsellor or psychotherapist because it might appear to be an arduous and painful process.
I believe that therapy should be an uplifting and inspiring experience.
To be sure, there are times when we may need to deal with painful memories and feelings. But even in these times you will feel totally supported and respected – going only as far, and as fast, as is right for you.
I also believe that the best work is achieved when the seriousness of the task is leavened by the spirits of good humour and deep curiosity.